The arrival of May means that Mother’s Day is swiftly approaching. Since the birth of my own children, I have been blessed to take part in Mother’s Day from the other side of the fence. As a mother, instead of a daughter. But it’s as a daughter that I’m writing this post. When I was little I loved my mother, she was my safety and my comfort. But, it wasn’t until I was older, after I had children of my own that I truly realized the depths of her love and sacrifices.
Being a mother is hard. There are days when there is nothing but Joy and love, but there are also days where there are pain and heartbreak. There are days where everything comes easy and days where no matter what you do, everything goes wrong. But you are there, you show up and you smile or yell, or comfort or fuss depending on the situation. Sometimes doing these things hurts your own heart so much that you can barely stand it but you do it because you’re a mom. That’s your job.
I never wanted to have children when I was little. I was going to grow up and have horses and dogs. Live in the country somewhere with my own private zoo of animals. Someday’s I do feel like I run a Zoo, but it’s definitely different than the one I imagined as a child. I wouldn’t change it for the world. And, if It wasn’t for having such a great Mom growing up, I would have no clue what I’m doing.
Mother’s Day – A Letter to my Mother
I don’t know if I have ever told you how much you mean to me. I hope that you know but its hard to find the right words in person or on the phone. When my heart is troubled and I don’t know what to do it’s you I call. This is not by mistake, it’s a sense of security built up by years of knowing that I can talk to you about anything. It is knowing that you are my rock and my defender. Sometimes, I admit, my ideas are a bit crazy and you need to talk some sense into me. Thanks for that too!
My husband makes me happy and my children make my life whole but none of that would matter if you hadn’t helped make me into the person I am today. You have made me compassionate enough to cry when those around me are in pain, strong enough to brush those tears away and do what I have to do and wise enough to figure out where I need to go even when the choices are hard.
You consciously taught me to be a good person. I was taught to say please and thank you, to work hard and do my best. You made me clean even though I hated it (I still suck at it, but I do it!). But it was through watching you that I really learned. It was the unsaid actions that molded me. Taught me true empathy and kindness. I know now, how hard it must have been to give me everything that I had. I know now, how much time and effort went into the things we shared, the horses and the trips and the endless parade of childhood desires.
I didn’t know then. But, I know now.
And I am grateful. I had a wonderful childhood. Everything wasn’t roses and rainbows all the time. But, I can look back and hope, that I can give my own children the same type of memories. Someday I want my girls to look at me the same way I look at you. I want them to be brave and kind and compassionate. I want them to look at the world with curiosity and wonder and never be afraid of following their dreams. You gave me that and I want to pay you back by passing that on to them.
Bring the mother to them that you were to me is the best way I know how to really make a difference in this world. This world needs more people like you. And I want you to know that, not just on Mother’s Day – but every day.
This was so beautiful to read. You are lucky to have such a great relationship with your mom and that she plays such a positive role in your life.
I do feel very lucky. I know not everyone gets a great relationship with family so I feel very blessed to have this one.
aww u made me emotional, really no one can replace her(MOTHER) she is always there for her child no matter what 💞😘
Very true! And no worries. I cried when I wrote it. I think becoming a mother has made me more emotional haha. I never used to cry at sad movies or songs, now a sweet picture can bring on the tears.
Very beautiful tribute. I lost my mom a week after I moved out of our family’s home on Mother’s Day. So this can be an emotional time for me but now I’m a mother and have 2 girls of my own. I also have 4 boys so being a mom is so special to me. This was an awesome read. Thank you for this! Blessings
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Holidays of all types are especially hard when loved ones aren’t there anymore.
awww i was watering up a little as I am reading this. what a beautiful and thoughtful letter to your mom! What a blessing that she was there for you and so loving 🙂
I did give mine a call today to tell her i loved her at which she replied: mothers day is such nonense. Too commerial. I think that my mom sometimes find it hard to receive love. It’s because she was brought up with a critical mother who told her often that she didn’t matter. Always giving her as much love as I can.
Aww, well even though she might not display it I’m sure it still means a lot to your mom to know how you feel!
What a lovely tribute to your mother! Your photos are great, as well.
Thank you so much!
This was such a beautiful letter it was so heartwarming to read! This is such a good way to show your mom how much you appreciate her and everything she’s done for you!
Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
I really hope so! It’s hard because we live far away from each other so it can be difficult to really express how I feel when I’m not there to show her in person all the time.
I’m in tears! This is such a beautiful read and I agree I didn’t truly realise how much I actually love my mum until I had my own children!
Soffy // themumaffairs.blogspot.com
I absolutely adore this post! Plus the line where you said that some days you feel like you’re running a zoo made me laugh, but you’re correct, family life can be quite chaotic. Enjoy your experiences as a Mummy, for they are unique and will fill your heart forever. My son is in his early twenties and towers over me but I have the memories of when he was little to hold on to..and to tell you to enjoy it, it goes so so quickly:)
Aww! Thank you so much! I’m glad I was able to bring a smile to your day! I can’t imagine my girls being in their 20’s but my oldest just turned 10 and I have a feeling it’s going to happen much sooner then I would like with the time has started to fly by.